A year ago today, we lost my sister-in-law, Terri, unexpectedly. Shortly after, I posted the story and feel compelled now to repeat some of the same words and sentiments.
We were all devastated and filled with grief of losing Terri. Her bright smile will forever be in my memories and I can truly say I feel her all around me.
Terri was like a sister to me, and to my other 2 sisters, too. Her death has left a void in my life that will take forever to fill. My brother Tim, Terri’s adoring husband and their 2 children, Jennifer and TJ have had to bear the brunt of this in their daily lives. The grandchildren, Sol and Vincent, are still so young, but they adored their “Grandma Bug” and truly miss her. They ALL miss her so terribly, as many of us do, but their pain is exponentially deeper. Terri loved them with all her heart. This strong and loving family has helped each other get through a year of “firsts”: Terri’s (and ALL their) birthdays, Easter, Mother’s and Father’s Day, vacations (including our annual O.G.G.W. traveling girl’s group), Halloween with the grandchildren, football and hockey season (Terri was a HUGE Steelers and Penguins fan!) Thanksgiving, Tim and Terri’s anniversary, Christmas, New Years, and now, the anniversary of Terri’s passing.
Bill and Sandy, Terri and Tim’s closest friends, even through their own grief, have been so very supportive of Tim during this past year. They are so kind and include Tim in everything, including their own family events. Truly, they are his best friends.
Terri was kind and compassionate, beautiful, sweet and so much fun. She had a zest for life and lived each day to the fullest.
Although those of us who knew and loved Terri still grieve and miss her, I can’t help but be so happy with the deeper relationships that arose from her passing. Our family texts, phone calls, visits have become more meaningful and more frequent. I would trade all that for another hour with Terri, but that cannot be. I trust that Terri smiles down on all of us, nurturing as she always did, encouraging the family love that was always there but maybe needed some attention. Terri was and still is a true blessing in all of our lives.
Missing and loving you so much Terri.